On Tuesday, my husband and I drove to Swedish Hospital in Seattle to meet with a female oncologist, Dr. E., for a second opinion. In a weird way, I was really looking forward to the appointment. I suppose it's because I felt disillusioned with the male oncologist in my hometown and I was hoping for someone I could really click with. I wasn't disappointed. Dr. E. seemed very gentle and thoughtful. Talking to her was like talking to a sister. She did an exam, which the male oncologist didn't do, so that surprised me (in a pleasant way, since I felt she was being very thorough). She explained a few more things to me that Dr. J. (the male oncologist) didn’t go into, but basically ended up making the same recommendation for chemo treatment as he did (although she did give me an option, but it wouldn’t yield as high a prevention result, so I passed it up).